It’s no secret I struggle, or that I struggle a lot and deeply. I wish I could be one of those amazingly together women who are calm in crisis, joyful in suffering and wake up singing with the birds like Snow White.—But then, none of you who are my friends would find me as endearing as you do right now, right?

Truth is, I’m more like Lily Tomlin in "9 to 5" or Josie Grossy in "Never Been Kissed" than any of my Disney princess heroines. I once told someone I was about as feminine and at home in a dress as Whoopi Goldberg. I was thinking of her character in Ghost and in my mind seeing her walking down the street looking more like a drag queen than a real woman. That’s how I feel when I try to play dress up and look all "sexy."

Recently I saw Whoopi in a comedy special on Bravo. She didn’t look at all awkward in her own skin. Rather she looked completely comfortable with herself, her body, her femininity, her womanness. I Googled her image and came across this photo. She looks decidedly vulnerable and feminine to me, beautiful. I realized I’ve completely misjudged her as a woman.

Maybe I’ve misjudged myself too.

Tonight I came across  this post by Emily McGowin. She’s a new discovery for me, and a blessing that I was in desperate need of tonight. My sexuality (apparently) took quite a beating at a very young age. It cowers in the corner most days and other days beats the living crap out of itself for merely existing. No, I’m not at all one of those amazing women who has it all together. I need to be reminded often that I don’t have to be, that God loves me just the way and how I am, that, as Emily says,

"there is nothing in you that is inherently un-feminine or un-womanly. Being female, being feminine, is something very personal."

I needed to hear that tonight. I needed someone to celebrate my womanness for me because I just couldn’t do it myself. Now I think I can, at least for tonight. Come celebrate with me, won’t you?

This is for all you girls about 42
Tossin’ pennies into the fountain of youth
Every laugh, laugh line on your face
Made you who you are today
This one’s for the girls
Who’ve ever had a broken heart
Who’ve wished upon a shooting star
You’re beautiful the way you are
This one’s for the girls
Who love without holdin’ back
Who dream with everything they have
All around the world
This One’s for the girls